Divorce can be a difficult time for many families, and in particular for parents and children. During a time of separation and mourning, the idea of celebrating the holidays can often be overshadowed by sadness and stress. Creating and maintaining meaningful, new holiday traditions after divorce can be a way to help reduce the burden of an already trying time and can help positive memories replace negative ones. 


The holiday season is especially difficult for divorced families, as it magnifies the absence of one parent. If there are children involved, it’s important to listen to their ideas and feelings about how best to celebrate the holidays. What if parents can understand their children and then establish easy yet meaningful activities that help children look forward to the holidays rather than dread them?


One suggestion is to incorporate traditions from both parents. This can be a great way for both members of the family to feel remembered. Opening a gift bought by the other parent and sharing a funny story about him or her can serve as a special reminder of beloved, dependable parent. 


It’s important to remember that kids of divorce are usually derailed by the incompletion of certain holiday festivities. Communicating regularly with the other parent can help ensure that crucial activities like baking cookies, packing the tree, trimming batteries and visiting Santa, are attended by both parents. 


The holidays are a great time to set up a dedicated day for a divorced family member or parents, especially if it has been established between the parents that they can gather and all celebrate the happy occasion. Doing something together, even if it’s anything from a lunch or special meal at a restaurant to a show or movie, can create lasting bonding experience for all members of the family.


For those who desire to create new traditions, some ideas include establishing a day to donate to charities and volunteer together. Families can actually become involved in the acts they are doing instead of just exchanging material gifts. 


Creating lasting new traditions can also offer independence and create a sense of control for parents after a divorce and help the family enjoy the holidays in a positive way. Having control and independence can supplement one’s wellbeing and self-love. 


No matter the situation, it’s important to seek out professional help—such as from a Miami FL divorce attorney—to understand the law and to establish the best and most beneficial options that fit each couple’s individual situation. Emotional support is also indispensable for divorced couples with children. Knowing that family members around them have faith they will be okay and do what's best for the family can be the little boost of reassurance needed to understand the situation and create positive feelings around the holidays. 


Ultimately, celebrating the holidays post-divorce can be a rewarding experience filled with potential for joy and connection. By shifting perspectives and being mindful when talking with each other, everyone involved can come away from the holiday period feeling fresh and ready for a new year. 



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